Dear Insecure Girl…
There she was. She was beautiful, kind, confident, had flawless skin, loved Jesus, everyone loved her and—most of all—I wanted to be her. It was so hard not to compare myself to her.
You might think this was ten years ago when I was in high school, but this was actually three years ago, when I was first saved. I was twenty-three years old and I wasn't secure in who the Lord made me to be. I was still thinking confidence came from my looks and style—like the world says. I knew the Lord loved me, but I wasn’t letting Him work out those insecurities in my heart, the root of the problem.
I bet you’ve struggled with the same thing, right? Maybe you think it's normal for women to be insecure and compare ourselves to every beautiful girl that comes our way. Or, maybe your crush likes a certain girl and now you want to be just like her so maybe he'll like you? This is what I would say as a woman who struggled a lot with insecurity:
Let's take a look at Genesis 3, where we meet Eve, the most popular woman on the planet, She had everything but wasn't content. She wasn't satisfied in God, with her hubby, Adam, or with being basically the only woman on the planet. I mean, under those circumstances you might think how could Eve be insecure, right? But she was.
In Genesis 3:5 Satan tried to tempt Eve. He told her
"For God knows that when you eat of it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.”
The Serpent was basically saying to Eve, "you're not enough," and she fell for that lie.
God doesn't leave us guessing where we stand with him, or how much he loves us. He has so many promises in his word on how he feels about you and me.
Remember, he is the God of the individual. He leaves the ninety-nine for the one. I've been praying everyday that the Lord would create in me a clean heart and renew a steadfast spirit within me (Psalm 51:10).
The best place to be, as a believer, is to put every doubt and insecurity in the Lord’s hands, knowing you can't fix anything yourself. God has to do that work in your heart. If you don't, the insecurity gets bigger and it affects not only you, but everyone around you.
What comes out of insecurity? Jealousy, bitterness, anger and other horrible things. Are you putting your insecurity in God’s hands or in the world’s hands?
Don't take my word for it. Look at these verses which reveal the Lord’s love for you and how He feels about you. Can you believe the God of the universe is in love with us? Agh, my heart!
“God shows His love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” Romans 5:8
“Give thanks to the Lord, because he is good; his love is eternal.” Psalm 136:1
“I have been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me. And the life I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God. who loved me and gave himself for me.” Galations 2:20
“But you, O Lord, are a God merciful and gracious, slow to anger and abounding in steadfast love and faithfulness.” Psalm 86:15
People are always drawn to a girl who knows who she is in Jesus and isn’t afraid to show it. She's confident in who God has made her. She's confident in the gifts that God has given her. Yes, she knows there are girls who are prettier, have better fashion, and are funnier than she is. But, if she struggles with insecurity she immediately gives it to the Lord. In his hands everything is made pure. Everything is made beautiful. Everything is made perfect. Insecurity doesn’t have to be part of your story. You can be confident in who God says you are.
by Jasmin Hernandez